Anonymous asked: What should men be considered, then? Allies? Because that term carries a lot of bad connotation because of how much attention they get over the people the movement is actually about. What's a man to call himself when he knows he's not the focus of the movement, but still wants to make it clear alongside whom he's fighting?
Wait, so “ally” gives them too much clout, but feminist doesn’t?
No. Stop it.
As far as I’m concerned, men can self-ID as anti-sexist, pro-feminist, etc. Or they can just do feminist activism and let the people around them give them labels. But for dudes to cling to “feminist” with the same entitlement that allows patriarchy to be a thing in the first place is not something I want in my movement.
marvelousreality said: Believing men shouldn’t call themselves feminists is fine, it’s your opinion, but outrage that they express a contrary opinion is absurd. People who aren’t you think themselves humans equal to you with the right to express opinions. Deal with it.
Get our of here with that “think they are equal to you” shit. Dudes have been taught since birth that their opinions mean more than mine, I’m really not here to validate that kind of attitude with “Oh, well, if you think you can be a feminist even though a woman is telling you you can’t, I guess that’s valid” because it’s fucking not. Dudes shouldn’t call themselves feminists, especially if the women they know tell them not to, and THEY need to deal with THAT.
Anonymous asked: i don't think it'd be unfair to say men who have clearly shown their commitment to actively dismantling the patriarchy SHOULD be given a seat at the table. (this coming from a feminist woman) I'd prefer for them to be at the table than, for example, pro-life women with serious internalized misogyny and patriarchal perspectives. I'm hesitant to call any man a feminist, but I feel it's possible in some cases.
I’d much rather have anti-choice women at the table, because they’re women who deserve to struggle for a definition as to what their liberation looks like. They’re wrong, but that’s what the table is for.
I mean what does this “proof” that men have shown their commitment to dismantling patriarchy look like? Who gets to define that?
Like really, you’d sooner kick a woman out for having internalized misogyny (raise your hand if you don’t, btw) so you can make room for a dude who has somehow “proven” he doesn’t hate women as much as other dudes do?
ATTENTION TUMBLR ARTISTS! Help an abortion clinic that was recently vandalized!
Hey everyone! I’ve got a request to make of you talented folks out there on Tumblr. I’ve seen some of your work, and gosh golly it is awesome.
Before I make my request, let me tell you a little bit about what I do. I blog here at STFU Fauxminists, obviously, but on weekends I’ve also been doing clinic escorting for a local abortion provider down here in Tampa, FL.
Right before I started escorting at this clinic, they had recently bought really beautiful and welcoming banners to hang on their fences to maintain patient privacy and discourage the counter-protesters that they have outside their gates regularly from yelling at and harassing patients.
Well, as many people know, vandalism at clinics is a huge problem and this is no exception.
A couple of weeks ago someone took a knife to these banners. They are entirely unfixable. The clinic really doesn’t have the money to replace them, so now there’s just an ugly blue tarp on the fence to keep the anti-choicers’ bullshit at bay.
So here’s where I got this neat idea that ya’ll can help me with.
I want to surprise this clinic with a giant collage of pro-choice, pro-reproductive rights, pro-woman*, etc. art pieces from around Tumblr mounted on a more sturdy board. Obviously nothing is going to be impervious to vandalism, but I still think this would just be a great surprise for the wonderful women that work at this clinic who endure daily harassment and multiple instances of vandalism (just a few months ago they had to replace their entire video surveillance system because someone took a baseball bat to it). They have to deal with all of this on top of the ridiculous standards placed upon them by the Florida legislature, etc. These women are tough and they deserve some appreciation.
So I’m hoping to collect submissions of art from anyone who wants to make it. Whether you think you have talent or not. Whether you think your idea is good or not. I WANT YOUR AWESOME ART.
THE MORE THE BETTER. MULTIPLE PIECES. BIG PIECES. LITTLE PIECES. FANDOM RELATED IS FINE, TOO, AS LONG AS IT’S ALSO PRO-CHOICE THEMED. FUCKING STICK FIGURES ARE FINE. WRITE ME SOMETHING. POETRY. A LIMERICK. ANYTHING. EVEN JUST WORDS OF THANKS OR ENCOURAGEMENT.
JUST GIMME UR ART AND STUFF.
Then I’m gonna put them all together and I’ll put a picture of the finished product on my blog and if you like, I’ll link to your blog and promote you and your art!
I know it’s not much that I have to offer, but yeah. Please please please contribute if you can. And if you don’t want to/can’t contribute a piece, please reblog this so others can see it!
You can either submit your pieces in my submit box here, e-mail them to me at STFUFauxminists@gmail.com, or message me for details on how to send them via snail mail.
Thank you for reading this and hopefully reblogging. Thank you to all who plan to submit. I’ll be taking submissions until the end of November!
*not just women, trans and non-binary inclusivity is also welcome!
Today Roe is 40
And unfortunately, something we really need to stop focusing on.
Is that blasphemy? It might be. Is it hypocrisy, considering I’m currently writing a post about it? Perhaps.
But the movement for reproductive justice has got to move away from Roe and understand that we won that fight. We have to move on and fight the battles that are undermining Roe. We have to win the fight to protect access to this established right.
Because most people don’t want Roe to be overturned. But they are still OK with intruding one pregnant folks’ access to abortion services in other ways. They are still OK with policing those decisions or making sure they’re properly moral or deemed appropriately necessary.
And so it’s that attitude we need to combat.
I really think that the pro-choice or reproductive justice movement is at a crossroads now. We need to make some changes to the way we advocate for this issue. Planned Parenthood has already made changes to their political messaging around the issue, although I don’t agree with it.
Let’s drop pro-choice if it’s not polling well, which is PP’s actual justification for this change. But let’s replace it with an all-encompassing, inclusive, and sustainable message about the pregnant individuals’ right to bodily autonomy. Double down on that message. Link abortion rights to the right not to be sterilized against your will, or the right to have a child when you want to. Make a web of reproductive choices and make it clear how they’re all connected. That’s one way to get lots of people to connect personally to an issue and see it differently.
Caving to pressure not to talk about choices, though? That’s not gonna cut it in the long run. We may not lose Roe, but it will become irrelevant like it already has for so many people - low-income people, people in states that have one (or soon to be zero, like Mississippi) abortion provider, people affected by waiting periods or ultrasound bills.
Those are the battles we need to fight 40 years later. The opposition has gotten crafty. And we’re not going to effectively combat that by compromising our messaging during a time when we should be capitalizing on their rhetorical blunders.
I’m in for a future where we can commemorate this day without making more battle plans. I think the only way we’re going to secure that is dedication to the heart of this issue - the right to be self-determining in one’s reproductive health and bodily decisions. Let’s not lose sight of that now.
I didn’t want to spam you with asks, but I felt this was an important matter so I submitted instead
So, I recently saw your post about the “guide to a safe abortion”, and I’m kind of wondering where the hayhay anyone gets off posting something like that on facebook and tumblr? I understand that women are sometimes denied the right to choose whether they give birth, but the wide majority of the audience you’ll be reaching on these websites are going to be uninformed teenage girls/young women, who are likely in a state of panic over it all, and have access to more legitimate methods. And what you are projecting to these girls is that:
1) It’s okay to lie to people to get a false prescription
2) It’s okay to go to illegal means to get rid of this child that you do not want
3) These drugs will fix this problem for you
The first two obviously tie in together, and it’s fairly obvious the issues with those—Young women with means to get a legal abortion, who do not know the process to do so, shouldn’t have to go to those measures. It can land them in A LOT of trouble, and cause problems for them later on in life, too.
The third issue is one that’s an issue for women in any country. You tell them the name of a random prescription drug, a general idea of what it’s used for, they might settle for other drugs that aren’t so safe for them. Grandma’s arthritis medicine? Okay, that should work. Just gotta wait till she’s asleep and steal a couple pills, she won’t need them. But then, oops, it’s not the exact same medicine they said? Hm, well, it should work. It’s like Advil versus Tylenol, right? Oh, but this baby is just really, really, not gonna be good. Taking a few extra should be okay, right? And it’s not like there’s a possibility of a serious allergic reaction that someone might mistake for it working, right?
You see where my concern lies? I just don’t see why you would want to spread that around when the possibility of it damaging the women who use the information is so high. I understand protecting the rights of women, but the women whose rights you are trying to protect are not going to be the wide majority of the ones coming into contact with that image.
It is something good for people who need it, it really is. But I believe this is one of those cases where someone gets it so in their head that this is a great idea that they don’t realize the flaws and could end up really harming others. I think I started this off a bit angry, but really, it’s more from concern than anything. I really just don’t understand how this is, all things considered, a good idea to spread out on these websites.
I apologize for the length of this message, and thank you for reading all the way through it. If you could do me another favor, though, by perhaps explaining how the things I’m worried about shouldn’t realistically be a problem, if applicable, I would really appreciate it. This is something that has really upset and concerned me, and I believe that, as a blog dedicated to feminism, you might be able to understand such concerns, and, as the OP, you might have a better idea of what was posted and be able to assuage my fears on the matter.
This is in response to this post that has recently begun circulating again, for some of my newer followers.
Where I get off posting something like that is directly in what you wrote: Sometimes women are denied access to safe and legal abortions. There are plenty of women, girls, and others who can become pregnant who may need access to this information. Most of the reblogs that I’ve seen with commentary have been people reblogging because they know they have followers in these countries or are citizens of these countries themselves.
And you know what else? It is ok to lie to get a false prescription if you have to. These people that are in these situations didn’t make it so that they had to go to such extreme measures, so if they have to do so they have to do so. And if a young girl who is possibly in this country (The United States, for me) uses this information because she can’t access the abortion that should be available to her according to Roe v. Wade due to all of the various pieces of legislation that anti-choice duckfuckers have put in place to chip away at those rights? Yeah, I want her to be able to use this information, too. Because it IS ok to go to illegal means to obtain an abortion if you need one because no one should be forced to give birth because of unjust, misogynistic laws. Were it not for people like the Jane Collective in Chicago who performed safe abortions illegally during the time that it was totally criminalized in this country there would have been a lot more dead women. They thought that it was ok to do something that was illegal when the laws were unjust, and I absolutely agree with them.
I have faith in teenage girls. I was one once and at the time I knew every law regarding abortion access for someone my age in my state and I made my decisions accordingly. I knew of this organization then, and I knew of this method then, and if it had come down to it, I would have employed it.
I understand that not every teenager is me. But because of this I also know that not every teenager is as stupid, as scared, as ignorant, or as disempowered as you might think they are. However, I also know that not every teenager has access to the information they need to know their rights or how access them. And I would rather they try this method than some of the other methods that I know they already try. Do you not think this method, with the instruction provided by a legitimate organization like Women on Waves, who does this a lot and who has helped people through many situations like this, is better than sitting in a tub of bleach? Douching with bleach? Drinking caps of bleach? Physically harming themselves until they miscarry? You’ve thought of all of the ways in which this information can be harmful but none of the ways that not having access to it can also be harmful. I would much rather teenagers feel empowered to try this method than one of the ones that are absolutely dangerous that they heard about from their friends.
The website and the organization provide plenty of information as to how to properly perform this, and teenagers and grown women aren’t stupid even if they are sometimes desperate due to oppressive laws.
You seem to think that if people did not have access to this information, they would not otherwise attempt to abort. You are absolutely incorrect. Illegal and botched abortions are among the leading causes of maternal mortality in many regions across the world. This method, one of the safer home abortion methods to try, is much preferable to paying a back alley butcher or using a knitting needle. At least in my opinion it is.
I don’t really think you have any idea who is coming into contact with this image. Tumblr is a big wide world and many people have access to it - not just people in Western countries (and even some of those countries have completely criminalized abortion or, like the U.S., simply made it inaccessible for many people). And I think you underestimate the women who might be in these situations in the first place.
Women on Waves is a fantastic organization that provides abortions for people in these countries by taking them onto a ship that is located in waters where their native countries’ abortion restrictions no longer apply. They also disseminate information like this for those pregnant individuals that they may not be able to help in this way.
Using Tumblr and Facebook is a great way to disseminate this information to people who need it as it has the potential launch information onto a worldwide stage. I trust people with that information just as Women on Waves does. They’ve been doing this for nearly 14 years and are an award-winning organization.
You can disagree with me as to the level of responsibility this kind of post entails. That’s fine. But these are my reasons for posting this information, and I really don’t care what you or any other person on the internet thinks about it.
People need to access abortion care whether that care is legal in their country or not. People deserve access to abortion care whether it is legal in their country or not. If that means they have to do it themselves by any means necessary, I will do whatever I have to do to get them the best information and resources I can do to make sure they are able to exercise their right to bodily autonomy to the best of their ability under oppressive regimes.
I hope that answered your question.