can we stop acting like surfing porn is a natural normal healthy part of discovering your sexuality and developing a healthy sex life
if anything will fuck up and harm your concept of sex and sexuality it’s scrolling through pages upon pages of ‘hot blonde slut gets her ass fucked by daddy' and 'whore gets tied up and made to cum' while ads for 'mercilessly fucked girls in free monster porn' and '18 & Abused!' blink on both sides of the screen and fuck you if you're saying any different
More than a third of us were sexually abused as children (Russell, 1984). For many of us, our first sexual experience was a sexual assault.
Forty-four percent of us will be raped (Russell, 1984). The environment in which we learn about and experience our bodies and sexuality is a world not of sexual freedom but of sexual force.
Is it any surprise that it is often force that we eroticize?
Sadistic and masochistic fantasies may be part of our sexuality, but they are no more our freedom than the culture of misogyny and sexual violence that engendered them.—
When Women Defend Pornography, Dorchen Leidholdt
monumentours asked: (tw pedophilia, tw molestation) the one thing i've noticed about people using the feminist label will drive sex as a super positive thing. the main reason this makes me uncomfortable? i was molested when i was eight. children cannot consent. this bull about "sex is liberating" no. it's not liberating. the choice is liberating, being in control of what you get is liberating. sex itself is not liberating and never will be. (poor explanation but hopefully understandable)
Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. This is generally the idea pushed by sex positive feminists (which I am not), and I agree that it is really damaging. I mean there are some aspects of sex positive feminism that are ok, but the willingness to throw anyone who doesn’t think sex is Super! Awesome! All! The! Time! under the bus is pretty outrageous and harmful.
But yeah, just wanted you to know that you’re not alone in your discomfort with the notion that sex is super positive, and you’re certainly not on the only survivor of sexual abuse that feels that way.
A Republican elected official in Maine actually said this. But what war on women? (via whitegirlpolitickin)
I think this is something I’m going to point people to when I tell them that the pro-life position is directly related to rape culture.